Business first: I thought you were splitting tax money with STBXH (you're right, that is long). Whose part is paying the lawyer? His part to pay his lawyer I hope.

I wasn't clear on where things stood with S12 meeting OW. Personally I'm glad you have a say and you're saying no. While you are still married it is not appropriate to imply to S12 that A is ok by taking him to meet OW. Blech.

This is not meant as a chastisement, but more of a gentle reminder. Dark means dark. Occasional random text messages are not dark. It's your call about how much contact to have, but I want you to be honest with yourself about it. From our convos in the alt I don't think you're having any problems detaching. It just reminds me of xBF saying, "but we were just bowling." And you know how I feel about that. Just tell it like it is.

Ok, onto the fun things.

Made the red velvet cupcakes today. SMW, I didn't have choc chips (only white choc) but they turned out very moist so no worries. And I even made the cream cheese frosting. I usually just buy a can. I had two(!) tonight and will give the rest away tomorrow. Very dangerous to keep in the house.

Did you find those activities through Meetup? They all sound like a lot of fun! I have been putting off volunteering and joining groups because I assumed I wouldn't be here for long. Maybe I can check out one or two things that don't require any commitment. Hah, now I'm the commitment-phobe! I say you absolutely should do the board game night. Finding new games is always fun, and if you don't like them then you don't have to go again. Have you ever played Bunco? I did a few times in AK with xBF's coworkers and it was a blast. I even hosted one night. But I had never done it before and wasn't sure I'd like it. I just agreed to go since I didn't know anyone within 1,000 miles and it turned out just fine. \:\)

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