Accelerated divorce due to OM...normal?

[sweet-1]

Met with my lawyer yesterday. Bluerain, I hope I'm strong enough to weather what's gonna come. It feels so strange to have to prioritize love, and to know that to help the kids, I may have to hurt my wife (financially). My lawyer is drafting a motion to have the 1 week/1 week custody continue for a period of 48 months, which will pretty much guarantee me primary residence as she has left the house twice now. I have affidavits from a Dr(child specialist), and a social worker about my parenting skills.

I am friends with her boss, and twice he has called me (out of concern for her) to discuss her lying and absenteeism etc, as well as to inform me that he has rolled her bonuses back into her wages. She got a SIN for our son 2 years ago, and payed her bonuses to him, (makes me wonder how many more bank accounts are out there), anyway her boss reversed this and put them back on her income. So her lawyer sends a letter to my lawyer stating that my discussing W with her boss is jeopardising her career and I need "to cease and decist immediately". I actually told him I'd appreciate if he cut her some slack (he says he'll back that up).

I've asked him not to do anything other than the custody issue until middel of May as I haven't been sleeping well, and having anxiety attacks in the middle of the night (possible loss of job, custody, divorce etc). He wants to serve my statement of defense sooner than that, but I reminded him that I am the client, and he is to advise not order ( I can be real Prick when cornered). Plus that will give me 6 weeks to DB.

One thing that amazes me is how much of the negative crap you find out about your own friends and family in terms of opinions etc. I'm sitting here fighting to put my marriage back together etc and people still have the nerve to tell me to just give up or walk away. If that's support, please don't help me anymore!