A New Decade

[native]

Msm,

My thread got locked and wanted to invite you to my new one. I appreciate all your insight and wisdom.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1743686&page=0#Post1743686

Thanks, Philip

[MichelleLT]

Wow.

I missed a LOT while I was gone.

Craziness.

That was an intense conversation.

Sounds like a lot of food for thought. Hopefully he's thinking lol.

It sounds like your GAL is going well and that you are taking care of yourself. I like to see that, it's important.

Missed you!

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Michelle, Thanks for checking in on me.

Yep, our convo was intense & I do hope I gave him much to think about. Maybe he can learn & grow from all of this.

I emailed him today, he emailed back & then sent me an email joke. Hadn't gotten one of those since way before pre bomb. Guess, I'm still off the black list - I'm surprised!!

[Kenn]

Hi MsM,

tough conversation but I did pick up on the dirty martini...thumbs up

seriously, hope it didn't bring you down

[JCJ]

Hey Ms M

I've just caught up. Wow, sounds like a big conversation, I'm pleased you got answers.

So... what now. Are you still progressing the divorce? Do you think this is still what you both want? Do you see a future for you both after the D? If so, what will that look like, friends/ bf and gf? Or are you leaving it up to fate?

Sorry for all the questions

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Kenn, thanks for stopping by Our convo didn't bring me down, I'm detactched enough & doing fine.

[MsMelancoly]

Hey ((Julia)), I missed you! Yes, I'm proceeding with the D, I just returned from the lawyers office. (I still keep thinking that if I hadn't done all the work on the D - we wouldn't be getting D. But, then maybe this little progress of friendship wouldn't have happened either). So since my H is the petitioner in all this he HAS TO show up at the D hearing (I do not). I'm sure he will want me to go & hold his hand - LOL (So mark my words on that). Do we both want a D??? I'm kinda in a flip flop mode - I suspect he is too. But I think after D his guilt will deminish some (or in some areas anyway).
As far as our relationship after D?? I don't know, currently, I suppose all options are open (some more than others). I don't much think about what our relationship will look like, because that puts an expectation on my part. I don't want any expectations at the moment. Strange, but we had a better gf/bf relationship than W/H relationship. I can see him trying to get back some of the things (the bonds, the closeness) we lost. I say this because of his reaction to my "you won't be their papa forever" statement. Yet, I do think I'm leaving that & all this to fate. Really, I am a true believer in fate (that & karma).

Surprise - last night he called me like he said he would. He really didn't have time to talk so it was very brief, but called non-the-less. Now at his job they are asking them to take 1 day off a week unpaid & asking for volunteers for 1 week layoffs. Scary .....

[MsMelancoly]

Well, surprise #2 today, my H called me at work!! He hadn't done that since last fall. (But I know his company is watching their emails). Anyway, he called to apologize for not faxing his pay check for D papers, told me today at work was bad too & that he felt like quitting. He wanted to vent to me, but knew he couldn't. Said he would call me tonight. I told him, the lawyer said we didn't need it & to try & have a good day.

H didn't call me, so I decided to leave him a message - hope your day worked out better, talk to you later. As I was leaving the message, he was calling me. The phone rang when I hung up & it was him. He apologized for not picking up & told me why. (This is quite unlike him). I asked if he wanted to vent about work. He said a little & vented a lot. I just listened & made small comments. He had to let me go, so he could eat. He then said he would stop over on Saturday, corrected himself & asked if he could (it seems my car registration went to his house, so he was going to bring it by). I said that I didn't have anything planned & Saturday would be ok.

And so the oddities continue........

[JCJ]

Way to go Ms M

[AliSuddenly]

Oh my god!! What is going on right now? Everythings gone a bit wierd for a few of us... I like that yuo are handling everything so calmly!! How do you feel about him calling you like this?

Al xxx