Hey FitChick Short answer: Validation of their anger without taking it on the chin is good. Yes you determine the boundaries.
I do not get on this site much anymore but I was deployed 4 years ago and got a dear John in the mail so I am somewhat familiar with the territory.
As far as the papers and such make the plantiff do all the work You probably can drag this out til past your deployment. Have you talked to a Jag.
I will say i am sorry for your situation I do not wish it on anyone. Trying to save my M while in Al Anbar was like fighting a war with 1/3 of my brain tied behind my back. Yes i did my job and well enough but it was such a struggle that combat was a fine release from the mental anguish. Hated when the bad guys ran from my Marines.
On the other hand upon crossing the great divide reguardless if its due to and IED or Alzeimers I can stand up and say i fought the best i could.
I wish you luck and Michelle's books are worth the read. This site as any marketing device promises more than it delivers but I would be willing to bet the stats of people following Michelle's advice do better than the Hollywood method of pursuing. At absolute worst it will do you good.
I talked to a person a year ago who actually did pay for Michelle's services and stated though she did not wish to stay Married to her X who was filing she felt the difference between the book and Michelle in person was well worth it.
I'd get you other books am on TAD out of town for a bit. (Am in the reserves and do Active time whenever)
Have a good one No_Hill
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
