S, So sorry to hear the news about your MIL. Do what you need to do. See her if you need to. (and it is ok to be there for your W if you/she needs it at that moment) I remember when my mother died, and then my grandfather died (we were very close) that my exh was extended himself to comfort me until I was over the shock. And remember, my exh parents just died in January, and eventhough he has a GF, we spend one night sharing memories of them both that only we had. Exh, said that it felt good to be able to do this. I think the kids liked it too.
Think about it. We will be praying for everyone. Just add it to my list - now my SIl is dying and my bro won't talk to me so I call her while he is at work. This is the part of getting old that I don't like so much - losing everyone. OK, now I feel better getting that off my chest. Thanks S.
