Well I was pretty shocked to say the least! I had been sleeping so I was just sort of standing there going "ok.." I helped him bring a few things in cause he got in a accident and had broken his rib or something then I went back to bed. Lol I didn't know what else to do. He didn't wanna tell me what happened so I left it alone.
We can barely pay our mortgage right now so he can't get an apt or anything. Its weird having him there tho
Live with him as if he were a houseguest. You have your own problems to worry about. If he asks you why are you seemingly so "cold" tell him that it's because you have more important things to worry about than him, like YOUR HEALTH.
Remember see him as little boy and you the adult. Don't enable him. He's got to do things on his own. If he's kind and compassionate to you, then by all means accept, but don't go overboard. This will show him your newfound independence and shield your heart in case he bails again.
Keep concentrating on yourself. Keep saying to yourself...he's just a roommate. Don't tell him everywhere you're going or everything you're doing continue to live your life as if he wasn't there.
And by all means, DO NOT go to bed with him. You don't need to be hurt again so soon.
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Ok stuck I am so glad you came by to offer your advice. I'm already following it!
You'll like this one. He's trying to figure out how to get his corvette out of his moms garage and over here, blah blah. I think he was waiting for me to volunteer to help (like I would have in the past) but of course I never did. Eventually he asked if I wouldn't mind driving him over there to which I responded "I'm sorry I had already made plans"
Which I do have plans. When he stopped by after work to get something he kept questioning what I had plans to do (I am a little dressed up) and I would never give him a straight answer. Then he left and called 10 min later to question me again. Ha! I like this. Now that he is back I can see how I've changed.I'm much stronger now.
I keep telling myself to do what I normally do everyday/night and to just ignore him and what he does. He is a houseguest, a roomate. That is all. This will be fun hopefully, I just need to keep going the way I am.oh yes and NO going to bed. I don't even want that anymore.
Plus I'm more worried about my health right now anyway. And yes the big man upstairs works in mysterious ways!
Well because of these recent developments I'm sure ill have more questions soon. Thanks!
I'm on my phone so this will be a short update for those of you kind enough to follow my sitch
Btw I made it a point to stay out til 9pm and I could tell he was very curious and wouldn't stop asking ?'S about my wherabouts
He texted me in the AM that he felt weird being in the house and wished he had other living options so I said "sorry u feel that way and I wish there were other options too"
Then he said "Its not you, its actually REALLY NICE TO SEE YOU I just feel like I'm invading in on your space"
1st time he's said anything like that since bomb
I didn't know what to say so I just said "I know ur having a hard time right now"
Old jenn would have said no I want u there or I'm happy ur here. It felt like he wanted me to validate it 4 him and I refuse to do that
Thanks fit, yeah I pretty much made sure I kept the whole weekend filled with things.
He came home from work and was telling me how he was going to his cousins or something that he already planned ...and I just gave him a confused look(like,why are u telling me this) and said ok.....
And he was like "oh I thought you mentioned something about wanting to do something"
And I cut him off smiled and said "no, I never planned anything for us any day this weekend I already have plans"
He responded with "oh maybe I got confused, maybe that was someone telling me that at work...." (Ya right)
I love how he assumed that I'd expect him to spend the whole weekend with him. To me, he is a roommate. I don't need to know hos whereabouts nor does he mine. He seems very confused by how I am acting.
I just got done getting ready to go out so I'm looking all cute and I'm sure I'm about to get questioned.
I never thought I could detach so easily. Its amazing.. the difference. I feel empowered