Healing my Heart part 7

[Rob1231]

Hi TAL, Glad you are still hanging in there - I say that for your sake, not for H's.

I'm curious... Why don't you split up your finances so he no longer has this to wave over your head? Divide everything into "your money", "H's money" and "family money" (which includes stuff that pays for the house, kid stuff, etc.) Granted, most of the $$ will undoubtedly end up in the joint account - but it would be really worthwhile for you to establish your own credit history, have your own "spending money", etc.

W and I did this back during The Dark Days, and I am still glad we did! It really is nice to have my own money to spend however I want, without having anyone else to ask about every dollar. If I want to buy myself lunch, or an expensive "splurge", or a new jacket - I can! It's liberating to be responsible for your own money, and to NOT be responsible for worrying about how the other person is spending theirs.

FWIW!