Oh my gosh Upside I could have wrote that post. That is exactly where I am at too, only 2 yrs and 7 months later. My h has gone to the cave, peaks very little and has made a mess of his job situation. I have no advice. Sorry! We sound like we are in the same place.

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"