I am a little angry that if she was so unhappy for years then why didnt' she try to communicate it to me in a way I would have actually heard. She knows I don't get subtle hints most of the time, just give it to me straight. And I'm kinda angry cause I feel like my trust has been violated. I know that I'm not perfect, but I honestly thought I always tried to be a good H.
This fits me perfectly--I feel the exact same way. My wife claims she tried to communicate this to me and and I racked my brain to try and think when she had talked about this and could not. I don't understand at all.