My main issue is not walking on eggshells, it is the direct conflict between two philosophies.
Chapter 10 of DB says very clearly (at least as I read it) - don't snoop, don't confront, just LRT your a$$ off. Detach, detach, detach and focus on yourself. Snooping and confronting is focusing on the wayward spouse, not yourself. It also says that if you snoop and gather evidence, YOU CAN'T USE IT!
Other philosophies (Not just friends) say snoop, gather evidence, and blow it into the open. It shows you as strong and once in the open, it will end earlier.
Last edited by Thinker; 04/02/0906:12 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
