I heard him with the insurance agent, walking through our home, very PROUDLY giving him the tour (... short explanation, we have a 100 year old home, on the river, in a GREAT neighborhood. When we bought it, it was in foreclosure, and it was SO bad, it took us 2 1/2 years of H general contracting the entire restoration, with some renovation, to even spend the night here, and another year to do the yard, etc... It's amazing now.). It was nice to hear him proud of what he/we had accomplished.
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I put an end to the convo, and told him I had to run, as my other line was ringing.
One by one... positive moments.
One by one... thoughts/feelings/emotions NOT being tied to how he is doing, but to how I'm doing...
That's all I can do now.
LET THINGS BE, and be positive in his presence. (oh, and maybe just a little cute!)
My W also brags about our house to others, even though she doesn't want to live there (with me)... To others she calls it "our" house, to me she says "your" house. Used to annoy me, now I just think if you want me to have it, I'll take it.
Good to hear about your progress. Thinking more and more about YOU, while you're letting him see what a great person you are, that's great! Keep going!
