Hey didi, you know I am a big girl and can handle it. Don't worry I am not going to cave especially when I saw how he just manipulated the situation to what he wanted. The word you said is sooo appropriate but I never thought that about him. About time.
Our "deal" is that he thinks that touchy subjects should be a piece of cake to handle when he never bothered to resolve anything. Annoyingly perhaps I am a "need to know" type of person and I have really struggled with this situation. I may never know and I have to be ok with that.
The kids have been moving through this. I have tried to be supportive without being intrusive. I have probably let them get away with a bit more than normal in some cases but I have also seen them reign themselves back in. We are all trying to find our way...by ourselves and as a rearranged family. The problem is the balancing act of ex intruding and yet trying to parent without being open and honest about his motives.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
