I proposed to my wife which was agreed upon that I will move back to the marital home in June and she moves out to her parents who will be in Greece until the end of August.
Other than that I am still searching for a job which is stressful in itself.
Mark,
I'll say my peace one more time, and then I'll drop it, I promise.
Don't be surprised if she breaks that agreement. Right now, she will say ANYTHING to get you out of your own house, and I think she's playing you.
Finally, I'd like you to consider these two statements of yours:
1) "Anyway, I know its not the right thing to do . . ."
2) " . . . but as previously mentioned the children are suffering, and to be honest I am looking forward to having space as well. It will be good for the children and removes the intensity at home."
These two contradict each other. It wouldn't BE "the right thing to do" if the premise was that the children would suffer, that you HAD to have space, and that there'd be an unmanageable level of intensity in the home if you were to stay.
I think you're rationalizing this, out of some combination of fear of your wife, fear of driving her away from you, and just selfish (but TOTALLY understandable) desire to be away from her and the conflict that she represents right now. She drains you.
Again, I understand all that, but I STILL don't think it's the right thing to do, nor did anyone else on the entire board. And I don't think YOU think it is, either.
I'd suggest to you that there is a THIRD OPTION here, and that is to make a stand, stay in your home, fight for your marriage, and learn the proper techniques to diffuse the tension.
