Lan, kids are certainly growing up faster than they used to. I think it is b/c of all they see on TV, etc. that "push" the issue of boyfriend/girlfriend. If you will notice, even the Disney Channel programs have shows that have small kids who are acting more like teenagers should. Anyway, little girls are definitely growing up faster, so I wouldn't doubt she has her first "crush" but I wouldn't worry b/c it usually means they are just beginning to notice the opposite sex. However, it is not to soon to start gently instilling some standards in what she should look for in friends.....including boyfriends. By the time she wants to "date", then hopefully she will have those norms and standards in her that will cause her to be very particular who she chooses to go out with.
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this crap with your wife again. I think you did right by calling her out about being secretive about her coming and going. Nobody in a MR should be like that when they are in Piecing, especially.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I think i picked up on someone elses thread that in piecing you should look to the bigger picture, rather thsn just the day to day madness. Ahhh... just found the comment.
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
In piecing, it's best to take the "big picture" view of things as opposed to that day to day lens we had to use in the midst of the craziness.
I think that very much applies to my sitch in that this weekend involved some very positive talks with W, positive in that we were being a bit more open in what we talked about. I've made it clear that her friends are her friends but there should be no secret friends. Anyway we still have a lot of work to do, a very long road still to travel.
You are spot with D7 she has been watching wall to wall Hannah Montana on the Disney channel, and both she and W thinks that it is too much, so we'll be putting a stop to that.
Just dropping by to say that you continue to amaze me with your love and patience. Good for you regarding the nice conversations this weekend with your W.
On the D7 front, she is normal. D8 speaks about crushes on a semi regular basis. Let your W handle it.
Lan, What you need to watch out for is the possibility of D7 getting sucked into W's possibly dysfunctional emotional/mental world as she grows up. This can happen if they watch certain TV shows together that are not exactly appropriate for kids - of course this may not be the case with your W, but it was/is with mine - so much so that my D12 acts like 12 going on 21. As Sandi points out, kids, particularly girls, are forced to grow up too soon by TV and what they experience in and outside the home. I think part of the solution is to stay very connected and involved with your D7 and not leave it all up to W.
No real updates on me, I'm still being a good husband and a great Dad. I am very frustrated about a few things but not much I can do about them now.
After talking to D7 she says she needs to watch less Disney channel as it will stop her growing up too fast (her words not ours).
W is taking a load of sh*t at work over time keeping and car mileage allowances, if I didn't know better I would say they were setting her up for a constructive dismissal but she has a meeting with her bosses tomorrow to sort things out. All this on top of her continually getting herself wound up and breaking down over her dads condition. All I can do is be supportive and listen.
I'm still very happy with my new car, I am planning a trip to the Cotswolds to see an old friend and my brother but that won't be until July. It will be nice to go in a car that was built in this century and all the buttons work and all of the doors open.
Hi Lanzo, funny I never knew you were a Brit! I am not to far from the Cotswolds, I love this county but you will probably feel like your in the States visitin in July but maybe tourism is quieter at the mo with economic problems. Good for your d coming to that conclusion. It must have been a satisfying talk.
Glad you like your new car. It makes a difference. I have an old car it was new to me about 10 years ago but still only has 40,000 on the clock so as you can see I don't drive much. If I did motorway driving I would like something a bit more powerful but it will have to do for now. Enjoy your week end.
I'm up in the north west, I'll use my newly aquired diesel power to drive down to Cheltenham and surrounding areas. The old car was 12 years old and had 130,000 miles on the clock and was showing it's age. Sad to see it go but glad to be in the modern age.
D7 is a little Gem at times, I told her no boyfriends until you are mummies age, her reply was "What, 45 !! I'm not waiting that long"
Gosh I am from the North West many moons ago now, a fishing port. Now I live just about 10 miles from Cheltenham. Small world. "I told her no boyfriends until you are mummies age, her reply was "What, 45 !! I'm not waiting that long"
Was in Newcastle in February as it happens. Lively place !!!
Hey Lan, nice line from your D. Had one from my S2 the other day. The boys know I'm a joker so take very little seriously from me. S6 know the difference now but S2 is a bit little to get it still. Anyway, so I'm telling him off a little the other day, basically saying, 'Stop that, that's naughty and not funny !!!'. He rplied with a big grin 'But it is a little bit funny !!! ' I cracked up so he continued and I really wanted him to stop....lol
