All I can say is that if it was me in yr Xbf shoes and I was serious about reconciling, then I would NOT have a problem with any of those. I learnt the hard way by accepting my W as is during our failed recovery. I was still in BS mode and just wanted to be back. I didn't lay any laws down or make any demands. There was only one thing that I wasn't happy about and that was mentioned by W before I could say anything. She was NOT going to lose her nights out with BFF! Needless to say, looking back, there was NO commitment on her part. Why would there be, all I was doing was to take things back 2 months.
As a reference point to all men, despite you wanting show your partners, exs, etc etc that you have a caring nature, Pearl is just like 99% of all women, they do NOT like wussy men. There is a time and a place for sensitivity and closeness and fighting for their affections is not the right one.
I can say that during the last couple of weeks in my new R, I have driven off a few stragglers from her past and heard from the horse's mouth....I love it when you do that!
I have learnt so much from here from both guys and gals and am now putting it to use (albeit in different circumstances than it was meant for). I can also say, that despite the lack of communication from W, it has perked up her interest in me, too late from my point of view, but as Puppy and Gucci say...grow some and be a man
