Brian - A couple of questions:

1. Did your wife straight up tell you she wants out so she can pursue this other married man? Or are you getting this from other sources, while she is telling you that she wants out for some other reason?

2. What kind of "controlling" issues has your wife brought up? Was it ever brought up before her A, or only after it started?

3. How do you know it is an EA not a PA? Only from your wife's word?

These answers will help me give you my opinion! Thanks!

DQ