Letting go and taking a left off last laugh lane

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Julia, I echo T's questions, I was going to ask those myself!

And yes, seems your H is very relieved that it is ok to contact you now, which seems to prove what my wise ole mum keeps saying.. its like they feel they dont have the 'right' to contact you. So you have given him that persmission and it seems from over here like he is contacting you more frequently now and less of the reticent BS as you say (yep, had plenty of that myself, in bucket loads). So maybe just really try let go and let it develop naturally? Sadly, he is now livig with OW, so any friendship is going to be limited by that (unless he allows you to meet her, or you would be ok about meeting her, or she would and I doubt thats a yes to any of that!).

Lastly.. how did you feel about his statement, or apology, when he said... "I'm really glad that we both think that we can still be friends despite everything I’ve done." ... so true to form, he is guilt ridden. (what is wrong with these WAS's?) I guess its because its not a 'normal' breakup.. where theres an element of it being mutual, or you have been argueing, or are not compatible.. its more like, things were pretty fine, or normal, whatever that is.. and then they meet a woman at work and BAM, they're gone.

You are doing so well though, its hard hey, but think we can see th light at the end of the tunnel hey, if not out into the sunshine yet.

Al xxx