gucci, reading this, I have to ask: would I be one of those 15 men? I don't believe I am settling for less, but maybe you see it differently from an outside perspective. You don't need to sugarcoat your comments for me. I am open to any suggestions you might have.
You would make 16. I didn't count you in the original 15, but I was only on page 2.
I will take a look back at your thread and refresh myself on your situation. Glad you don't want it sugarcoated though. Good thing.
However, I went back to just look at a few things happening in your situation and came up with the following quote in less than 30 seconds. Just by this quote alone, I would already venture to say that, YES, you will be another man I am talking about. I will do my research on you from start to finish so that I know the whole story (as told from YOUR perspective) If you have a link to your other threads, that would save me some time.
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I still have not had any reaction from my W regarding the email. She does seem to be a little bit more open, more communicative with me. I will need to ask her pretty soon about it tho, because I have a list of availabilities from the MC.
Taking it slow! Giving her some time to process....
These comments from you are exactly some of the things I have been talkikng about. "Taking it slow", "Give her some time to process".... "She hasn't yet responded to my emai". etc. etc. etc....
The other 15 men (or more) I have tracked are doing and saying the same types of things. Same types of results. I keep hearing "patience" .. "she hasn't yet responded"
Almost verbatim from one thread to another...
The thing I don't see is....
She fell back madly in love with me and things are perfect and she is soooo sorry she did this to me and will never want me out of her life again.
One out of a hundred? Or don't you ask these questions? Or don't you ever wonder why so few seem to turn around or be saved on this site? Or are you scared to bring that up on this site? Why so few saved or reconciled? Why the same results from someone on here a week as someone a year? The facts show that the WS is STILL not sure. Doesn't anyone ask the question of maybe we are following the wrong road here?
Not me. I already know why. It very rarely works to "hang in there" "fight for my marriage"... when the WS is having an affair....
You show me more success of the things you are doing that actually works to save the marriage and I will start recommending them. For every one marriage saved, how many do you see still floundering? Why? Why not 5 or 6 saved per week some weeks if your ways are working so well?
