Is there usually an OM when the W has lost any feelings for the spouse?
I know that from what I have said of my sitch that people here and my IC think that there is or was one. I have snooped and found nothing so far. And she has denied any and said that she has thought that our marriage wasn't so great for years which built up to where we are now. But I dont' know if I'm just that stupid or oblivous, but I really, really had no idea. The bomb was a complete shocker for me.
And I don't know what I'm supposed to be 'normally' feeling, but I now find that I feel some anger in addition to all the other 'normal' feelings. I am a little angry that if she was so unhappy for years then why didnt' she try to communicate it to me in a way I would have actually heard. She knows I don't get subtle hints most of the time, just give it to me straight. And I'm kinda angry cause I feel like my trust has been violated. I know that I'm not perfect, but I honestly thought I always tried to be a good H.
I dont' know if some anger is good or bad, but that is where my mind seems to be going.
