. . .H had an A w/coworker. The OW is M with 2 kids. They are in the Navy. He still works with OW. His career makes it harder for him to change commands and same for her as well. They have direct contact probably everyday but I have no clue how much. Supposedly it is completely work related and that is it. Every day I wonder if he talks to her. A higher up, with whom my husband admitted the whole A to, forbid them to talk/be together since they could get demoted/kicked out for their actions. But this person is now gone so who knows what their relationship truely is anymore.
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I feel like if I can really stick with the steps in DB he will come around. We just need to find our spark again. Its been a while since we have had them.
LnL,
The problem you're going to have is, as long as he is still in contact with this other woman, then -- emotionally and even physiologically -- he's not going to be open to YOU emotionally. He won't just "come around" as long as they are in contact, I'm sorry to say.
And their supervisor's admonishment may only make the fruit that much more forbidden.
How long ago was the affair? How long until your husband can get a transfer to another duty?
