Stress, WAW and life in general II

[2gthrButApart]

If you ignore her negative beahior it'll swing back to positive just as quickly. They're like chameleons, they can chnage the color of their skin in a second. It's frustrating. Sometimes I resent "acting as if" b/c I just want to scream at the top of my lungs, but now is not the time.

Don't think about how she found the restaurant, that's "living in your head" it will drive you absolutely insane. I do it all the time, and I'm really trying to learn how to stop. I assume all types of things. And you know what they say when you assume. You make an Ass of U and Me. 99% of my assumptions are false, and just my own insecurities making me think the dumbest things. Then I try to rationalize my assumptions, try to figure out a way to make them sound dumb. Like you w/ the restaurant, maybe she went to lunch w/ co-workers , maybe she read about it in the paper and decided to go w/ the girls, maybe she had a meeting there. It doesn't have to be a negative thing. And if you go to her favorite place with all of the negative assumptions running thru your head, you will show it. It'll come across in your posture.

You might use sarcasm and say "So who brough you here that it's suddenly your favorite place", or just have some type of anger and suspicion towards her, and it can ruin an opportunity to connect a lil'. She'll feel the hostility and regret even trying to have a nice evening with you.

If her favorite place meant something special to her with another man, and she knows that man might frequent there, if obviously he took her there, then why would she want to take you there? Why would she want to run the risk of bumping in to someone else with you?

If she's so angry at you why would she want to take you to a place that makes her feel good, especially if it made her feel good with someone else? That would just make her realize how unhappy she is with you and how happy she was when she was there with another. It doesn't make sense from a woman's POV.

GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD!! It's a dangerous place to be at this time. Trust me I know. I'm trying so hard to STOP thinking so much. We need to learn how to live in the moment.

ENJOY YOUR DATE. SHE'S TAKING YOU. IT'S A SPECIAL PLACE. SHE COULD BE GOING WITH SOMEONE ELSE, BUT SHE'S GOING WITH YOU. SHE LOVES YOU.