Well, yes it makes total sense to men like me who have been successful with women over a long period of time. It doesn't seem to make sense to many on this site, or they would be doing a LOT of things differently. However, it is their loss if they want to continue down a cheeseless tunnel. Nothing wakes a woman up faster than a man with some guts and some morals and some strength to show her that even though he prefers that they work it out, he will NOT share and there is nothing to talk about EXCEPT how soon she is going to move out. It then gives HIM his self esteem and confidence back and he starts to feel better. She then secretly respects him because she knows what she is doing is against her morals. UNTIL he lets her go in that type of way, then he is destined to be the men this site. Day after day after day..... Foot rubs, back rubs, making dinner, cleaning up, watching the kids, believing her lies, let's go to counseling, let's communicate, "I validated her today".. on and on and on and on... Men such as me who KNOW better, just shake our heads in disbelief that these types of things are accepted and even promoted by others when they obviously have not been working. AND if they do, it is a very small percentage. (which I do keep track of)
If they want to do a true 180.. Imagine if some of the men that we follow day after day would do like the ole Gooch has suggested..... It sure makes the WS suddenly ask the right question or questions.. Which is .... "Is this what I really want now that he has "released" me and the choice may not be mine anymore"....
When the answer is to stand up and say to her with your actions.... I WILL NOT be in a relationship unless it is exlusive and unless we are both WANTING it. If it can't be that way, then yes I will be hurt, but I WILL go on. And then LEAVE HER ALONE and let HER COME TO YOU.
I am in the minority here on this site. The blind are leading the blind. Wives running around on the men on this site right beneath their noses and the men keep falling for the excuses the WW's are giving them. How naive. The women will keep doing it as long as the men want to fall for it. How sad, but oh how true.
Well, I wonder which WS gets a footrub tonight. (pathetic) (which is unattractive to a woman that is trying or thinking of getting away)
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Pearl's is a real success story thus far in the power of taking a firm but loving stand, and not "settling." We have literally seen her grow before our eyes!!
Love has nothing to do with it. HE didn't view it as loving. It has to do with self respect and confidence and what Pearl has been telling others now. Which is.... I will not accept anything less than what I want. Those who take that stance and follow it are the ones that get the results. It isn't loving "them" enough to let them go as it is "loving myself enough" that choose to let them go....
I had no doubt that he would turn around if she followed the plan. It sure works far better than the plan she started with huh?...
She now is in the reconciling stage..... Good for her and a testimony to being strong and confident and letting them go because you will NOT share with a third person....
(pathetic)