Pearl, sorry to hijack for a moment, but gucci's post made me reflect on my own sitch...
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
BINGO.... Anybody reading this statement? Strong, confident and wise. NEVER settle for less. Far too many on this site are settling for less than what they want. How sad. There are at least 15 men posting on this site right now settling for less than what they want because they are scared to stand up and show their wife that they will NOT tolerate someone who wants out. All doing basically the same thing with the same result. The blind leading the blind. They can't see how a strong stance of saying "enough" works far far better. As they continue to whine and complain and wave in the wind hoping that their WS will come back to them. O for 15 at the moment. Not good results in my opinion. Settling for less and willingly. Doing what isn't working. Not enough advice from successful men who know why you shouldn't be doing the things they are doing. Most of them have spouses interested in someone else and can't or won't face that truth. They have bought into a lie and are believing that she is "depressed or hurt" or any number of other excuses that aren't really the facts. The facts are that she has her mind on another man. Plain and simple. We can't talk about that though. I have been doing this for 20 plus years and I have still not seen how men can believe that chasing and hanging around trying to win a woman that doesn't want you works. IT DOESN'T. The woman just can NOT respect you and love you when she is showing a man that she is doing everything in her power to let him down easy,and yet he refuses to show her that he can and WILL let her go. When he does, is when he has his best chance to get her back. I have seen it again and again and again. Of course, why would we do what works huh?
gucci, reading this, I have to ask: would I be one of those 15 men? I don't believe I am settling for less, but maybe you see it differently from an outside perspective. You don't need to sugarcoat your comments for me. I am open to any suggestions you might have.
