PDT once said 'her brain is awash with chemicals right now'.
Anything she says is misleading - especially when you over-analyze every word, glance, or movement like we all do. She probably won't be able to see any positive changes in you for months, so don't worry about anything she says for awhile.
Exercise and if you need things to do to keep busy, get around other people through social networks like your local Meetup.com groups in whatever interest/hobby you may have or have an interest in starting.
Also, I learned the hard way about any comments made to or around my S6 got skewed and passed on to my WAW - which only served to anger her. NO ADULT SITUATION TALK with your kids.
Work on yourself and leave her to face her problems on her own without any expectation that she will 'try' or 'respond' in any way for quite awhile to come.
Good luck Antlers. It doesn't seem like it today, but you will survive this, grow from this, and soon see a whole new light about yourself as you acknowledge your own changes.
