You don't have to listen to her if she is being hurtful to you. Just tell her something like your tone/words are inappropriate and if she wants to talk it needs to be civil otherwise I we don't need to talk.

Me:40
W: 39
T: 17 years
M: 15 years
S-9
D-6
D final 11/10/2009

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."