WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

It was an uneventful morning so far.

She woke me up as normal. I asked how if she slept ok - she had some hives/rash break out on her face last nite after we got back from baskin robins. She had gotten back up about 45 minutes after she went to bed at 9:15. I was still in the family room. At first I thought she was coming back down to talk about the parenting agreement. She came down for some anti-itch cream/lotion, but she seemed pretty wide awake.

I had commented about how I thought she looked like she had gotten a second wind when she came back down. She said she did, but said she managed to fall back asleep. She said it was still itchy, but getting better. I think she's getting stressed, her body reacts when she's stressed. She had a rash break out under her armpits on Monday before we got to counseling - I presume as a result of the rough weekend with my mom visiting.

When she gets to those points, I do try to be compassionate and say "That looks uncomfortable" or "That looks itchy" or "Ouch" or "Awwww, that looks pretty bad" or "Oh no! Not again!" and I follow up with "Is there anything that I can do to make it feel better (or help)?" I've been torn on this wheter it's being compassionate or am I being enabling - helping her get through the stress so she can walk right out my life. Any thoughts?

We chatted briefly about some light stuff (i.e. weather, what the kids were doing, etc.). She didn't seem really tired, it did seem like something was bothering her. I'm sure it's related to the parenting agreement. I'd appreciate if anyone has any feedback/thoughts on what I had posted about how I was going to tell her about my thoughts on the parenting agreement.

Thanks for everyone's support