Having a tough week, but doing my best to keep my chin up.
Started at new offices Monday so now got a 40 min drive to work, which is bout double what I had, but that’s not to bad, it’s once here and nothing to do which is driving me nuts. The office is a ghost town and the project I was to be working on has been shelved so literally on the net and e-mail all day, though leaving early a lot as not just sitting here. Still hopeful I might swing a late redundancy as it’s that bad.
Had my boys Monday evening and on dropping off a mini domestic kicked off with STBX re when I’m having the boys stay over which continued a bit on text after I had left until I sent a stopping text then ignored her. She is badgering on again about when I have the boys and it’s tough, as although I can have them where I’m living, one of the guys there currently works only weekends and shifts so I need to agree it with him first in case he gets home at say 3am, he’s not going to want my two making a noise at 6-7am and waking him up. My STBX doesn’t grasp this. This annoys me totally as it’s all I can afford to do living wise due to her leaving me broke and homeless. I just which she would learn to live by the effects of the choice that she made and she just can’t, she continues to try and blame me and attack me which I am ok with but 2 things get to me and she knows it. Attacking me as a father and wanting to spend time with my boys and attacking my family……which moves us on.
My mum picks up S2 from STBX then goes and collects S6 from school on Mondays. Anyway, when picking up S6, it turns out there was a school Easter Egg hunt that was 50p and my mum did not know (nor did I) and didn’t take her handbag and does not know the other parents well enough to ask. S6 said it was ok, then Tuesday am, my mum gets a nasty text from STBX basically blaming her in it’s wording. Well, my mum was fuming and went to see my sister who happened to be with another of the mums from school who doesn’t like STBX and said, ‘oh, STBX new about it as they spoke about it in the morning as she had forgotten to make him and Easter hat !!!’. Well, I saw the text and said do not reply, then we came up with something later and my mum sent that. It’s was really cleverly done and turning it back on STBX in such a way that she couldn’t (assuming she has any sort of heart) either reply without sounding even more evil or take it to heart. The thing is, why turn on my mum ? She is helping her out and it was her own mistake ? By doing so she has also distanced herself from my mum, the boys nan, who she could ask to have them over night sometimes, but that is now all gone. Cut off her nose to spite her face if you like.
Anyway, things have settled down, I just want this all over now and hopefully get redundancy so I can start spending some quality time with my boys until I get some other job
