You do make a good point, as I agree their relationship with him, is up to them. It's the anger they are carrying with them, that I am trying to help them with. They can't go to their counselors, they need an adult to take them, and Dick isn't allowing it, the court isn't ordering it, and my hands are tied for now. I am trying to do the best I can with what little knowledge I have.
For this moment (until I learn better) I am falling back on my own experiences, trying to remember anything that would have helped me back when I was a teen. My Mother and I had a difficult relationship, and often I resented the way she treated me. I know now the anger did not do me any good, emotionally, physically, and mentally. I remember when I finally learned to separate her behavior from the person, it was easier for me to coexist with our relationship and with each other. Yes, I understand what works for some, won't always work for others, and most importantly, I was much older than they, when I finally came to the conclusions I had made. However, I did struggle for a long time with the bad and angry feelings, which didn't do a whole lot for my own self esteem, and way I looked at life.
I am trying to tread lightly, for I don't want to make the situation more difficult, or even worse, create more harm and cause more scars for the kids. It could be said that I'm trying to control the situation still... this is something I will have to think long and hard about before making another step.
I want to ease their pain, soften their anger, so they will be able to their focus on the life they have before them, instead of the anger and resentment they feel because of Dick. After All, this should be some of the most carefree, enjoyable times in their lives.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
