Um, just a thought, but I think you should leave his and the children's relationship up to them. Stop trying to work with them in seeing his actions apart from him. He, after all, may be the person his actions are showing.

Take care, and praying for you that there is a painless resolution in this ... SOON.

Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed.
D35,S/D twins28,D22
EA4/04 End? Who knows?
"Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim