Partner left after 9 yrs - I finally detached!??

[mishka422]

Awwwwww....Ali. Why did he send you a present for your b-day? Because he's guilt ridden and still thinks of you as a dear friend. Why is he comfortable texting but not talking so much? Ummmmm......again with the guilt and texting is impersonal. Hearing someone's voice and hearing their inflections is another thing entirely. Same reason Gabe and I communicate almost entirely via text. Easier than having to hear the voice of the person who betrayed you/was betrayed. I have the feeling that Gabe cringes any time I have to actually speak to him. He always seems like he's going to jump out of his skin if he actually sees me. I can imagine your xbf is doing the same things. He doesn't like what he's done, but he sees it as a 'fait accompli'. He can't go back but he can't really move forward totally because he's still attached to you.

I know, I'm rambling. Sorry. Just the way I'm seeing it. As to what to do about it....I have NFC!!!