Offer to take her to her OB/GYN, and confirm the pregnancy. Apologize, but say "considering the long-term consequences of what we're about to potentially do, I need to be sure," and then insist upon it.
If she balks, offer to watch her pee on the strip. If she balks at THAT, you'll have your answer, and will know very sadly what you're dealing with.
okay. wait. try this. she is trying to divorce you and move the other R forward. maybe OM backed off a little which is why she started reeling you in again. then she gets bright idea. IF I SAY I'M PREGNANT, Tom won't want me, so I won't have to worry about that...at the same time, I can hook OM into marrying me...this plan works great! i think i'll try it!
BINGO!!! Give this girl a prize
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OMG. I completely understand you rethinking your stitch and honestly....I know we are supposed to keep our opinions to ourselves...but I think you will be 10 million times better off. I wish it could work for you...but I have to believe that God has something better in mind for you.
I believe it too; I've never been so sure of it in my life. I'm at the point where I feel sorry for the kind of life she's created for herself.
Offer to take her to her OB/GYN, and confirm the pregnancy. Apologize, but say "considering the long-term consequences of what we're about to potentially do, I need to be sure," and then insist upon it.
If she balks, offer to watch her pee on the strip. If she balks at THAT, you'll have your answer, and will know very sadly what you're dealing with.
Puppy
Puppy...I wonder if I even need to do that. She asked me tonight why I wanted to wait to do the settlement. I told her first that I don't have the money (A lie!!; just a way to postpone); second, I don't want to do in front of our son; and third, given what you've told me there are legal ramifications of which I am woefully uninformed. The divorce decree is a document that will govern our relationship for the rest of our lives. She was like, "I would never do anything bad to you." I replied, "it doesn't matter; I'm responsible for protecting myself. Therefore, I will." I told her that this will HAVE to be addressed in the settlement; therefore, I need more time to get legal advice.
So my point is that I'm going to address in the settlement whether it's true or not. She said; I'm going to prepare for it. Any thoughts? still think I should demand proof?
Then I get this gem thrown at me, "OM wanted me to let you know that he doesn't want you to feel like you have to help." I laughed and replied, "WTF, his timing for the consideration of my feelings is WAAAYYYYYY off the mark."
and I have presented further evidence of why I marriedCrazy!!!!
Crazy, you are so right. I forgot the IUD issue. It can cause ectopic pregnancies. Sorry to mislead you.
Yes, I have been lurking in the shadows for ages. I think marriage is piecing though... probably will not come out with my own sitch.
Wishing you the best
June, That's good to hear for you. At least you've found us and can take the good with the bad. LOL!!
thanks so much for the well wishes; and I also wish you the best. I understand piecing is the hardest part.
Could she be lying and stating what the GYN had mentioned originally about the possibility of an ectopic with an IUD? Or the literature she read when she got the IUD? The more I think about this is still does not make sense. My mom was a GYN nurse for 20 plus years, I wish she was awake right now I would ask her (I was in ICU), I had a high-risk pregnancy. Why would they not get an ultrasound ASAP if there was some concern of ectopic pregnancy? Ectopic's can kill you. Usually there in an ultrasound suite and tech on site and any concerns can get looked at right away. They always did for me... and the is two different GYN's I'm talking about. Did she get a script for an ultrasound off sight? I would think a doctor would be so liable if there was any legitimate concerns about an ectopic and the ectopic ruptured. Why would they wait and allow a possible ectopic to grow and risk it? I don't know enough. I really am going to try and find out more tomorrow just for my own curiosity. This baffles me...
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
Does she have an appointment card or script for her supposed follow up ultrasound? Does it really matter I guess... So sorry
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
She was like, "I would never do anything bad to you."
LMAO..."as long as I'm the one defining bad.."
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Then I get this gem thrown at me, "OM wanted me to let you know that he doesn't want you to feel like you have to help."
As f*@king if that ever happened.... just another backwards talking statement from her...IOW..."I WANT YOU to feel like you have to help me." And as has been previously discussed, she probably made the whole thing up. Next...I foresee...a miscarriage. OR misdiagnosis...those damn doctors, it's the weirdest thing!
Why she would make that up confuses me? But in any case, made up or real, I just think you really need to try to no contact with her. She sounds like such a messed up person right now, and you should try to stay off her rollercoaster as much as possible. Karen
