DanceQueen -- this has been very illuminating. I'm curious about this:
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I dated lots of guys during my separation, but I really longed for my ex-h to pursue me like that. I kept giving him chances and telling him I was slipping away.
During our most recent convo, where WAW -- who is in a distance EA at the moment with limited opportunities to see OM -- basically said that whatever "else" happens it has to start with friendship, I mentioned setting boundaries.
She said something to the effect of "I understand if you're not in an emotional place to handle friendship right now, so you'll have to set the boundaries."
To which I replied, "Perhaps it would be better if we mutually negotiated the boundaries. Because I don't think mine would be the same as yours."
WAW asked for clarification, which I was somewhat reluctant to give, and so said, "I'll put it this way -- there've been at least 3 occasions in the past couple weeks when it took all the will-power I could muster not to step forward and kiss you."
I expected a kind of "eeewww, I don't think of you that way," but what I got instead was..."Well, there are all kinds of relationships aren't there?"
Um? Is this some kind of suggestion that romantic pursuit would not be unwelcome?
