well said trusting...its amazing how to read what you feel is so right on with how I feel too....it also makes me think about how we read about the ML and how they feel..its all so close to the same way....very weird....either they regret it and make it right or they regret and cant make it right....but I really think in a very high percentage their is deep regret for what they have done....
eventually there is deep regret. What I would not pay to be a fly on his wall though. I would give anything to see the interactions between him and OW.
I have been wondering what their conversations consist of......
My kids said they fought like cats and dogs on my birthday, especially when ex took my daughter out shopping for a present for me and he instructed OW to take care of the baby.
My baby said that they say, "naughty words, like shut up, get over it, go away, etc........
So sad...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T- I have come to realize that until I realize the depth of Gods love for me I will never "See" others love for me.... So glad that you have that--- I want so badly to really be there.. oh yes- you need to email me your phone number....
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
There is a big difference with other things though. She is uneducated, very passive, needy and clingy.
I am very educated, assertive and independent.
Ex could never control me. He always told me that is what he found so attractive when we were dating. He also loved the fact that I had my Master's degree.
During his MLC, he told me that I had too many "male" characteristics, such as my education and independence. He wanted someone who would look at him with stars in her eyes.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
And that, my friend, fits my h's situation with his girlfriend to a tee!!! It is almost identical, except I'm sure my sit she is muuuuuuccchhhhh younger. It is ironic that she looks a lot like I did at that age. Except for the fact that I didn't go around with my boobs hanging out all over myspace. LOL
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
My ex's other woman is 10 years younger. She has a really bad complexion though and looks a lot older than she is.
She has no friends and her family lives out of state. They don't pay much attention to her at all.
What has been really puzzling to my family and me though with OW is the fact that ex and her do not live together. It would save them money and they have been at this for a good 3 years.
She is his secretary........ so cliche, but he has to be with her 8-12 hours per day.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
yes very cliche. The bait is right there. Mine started the same way..with the "office girl" which triggered that portion of the MLC (want what i shouldnt have).
My x's first (the office girl) didn't turn into much. #2 who came in 2 weeks after he left... she was opposite of me looks wise.. but she was fun. AND HE WANTED FUN - I was responsibility.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
