haha.. well it wasnt a BOB if that was what you were thinking Kalni!!
Pisces and Cancer. perfect match (water). My perfect match would be a Cancerian man, as I also have Cancer on teh cusp of my 7th house, so whoever sign is there, is your perfect match, apparently!
Hey Mish..Yes, I have papers to sign and I was thinking the EXACT same thing, I AM lucky, and I do realise that some people never experience that once, neverlone twice in a lifetime. Its amazing, its like we are older and so different, and yet I was still taht 19 year old girl gazing into his brown eyes and he had a cheeky excited little look on his face and said like a little kid "you want to see my portfolio!??" and so I did.. I think if you connect with someones child within and them to yours, thats true love.
Got to go waitress now at the curry house for free food and cash, though last time I nearly broke my foot! And then I am going to scan some old and very funny pics of me when I get back in, onto FB!!
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Pisces and Cancer. perfect match (water). My perfect match would be a Cancerian man, as I also have Cancer on teh cusp of my 7th house, so whoever sign is there, is your perfect match, apparently!
yes maybe I should have kept him. I understand exactly what you are saying, I felt thats how it was even tho he has not aged well,it didn't matter to me. He made me feel soo special he always did but I wanted more all those years ago in retrospect I think we probably would have made it but who knows. Take care with the waitressing, would steel toe caps be appropriate.
Hey Rob, he wasnt an old flame, he was my first and true love!!! I would have stayed with him forever, but I had to leave because he became verbally abusive, but it broke my heart into a million pieces to leave him and took years to get over him (not until my current ex, despite bf's in between!). But.. it makes me appreciate how hard it is to go back, as even after all the years, I still look at him and think.. hmm.. but have you really changed? Would it be a risk to try again with you? And especially remembering how hard and painful it was to leave him. So, perhaps thats what my ex feels now.
So.. I didnt ring him, I texted to say I had emailed him about the papers. He replied a minute later, saying he was sorry he had been out of the office for over a week and would phone me tommorow, and then said "Are you ok?". I replied an hour later saying I was waitressing and a joke and then ok, call me tommorow.. He replied again 10 seconds later saying "Ok." (about calling I presume!) and another injoke (from our emailing weeks ago) and said "glad your getting fed" (why? Why is he glad I am getting fed? He hasnt contacted me for a week and a half, I could be dead for all he knows!).
So.. I suppose its good he replied straight away and said he would call me, but it upset me a little bit.. oh, so you can text me very easily then. So why is this only the second time this year? (yes, because he's 'moved on' and is seeing someone else) .. in that case.. WHY DID YOU POST ME AN F-IN PRESENT FOR MY BIRTHDAY!?? (Cyrena where are you when I need you!?)
Awwwwww....Ali. Why did he send you a present for your b-day? Because he's guilt ridden and still thinks of you as a dear friend. Why is he comfortable texting but not talking so much? Ummmmm......again with the guilt and texting is impersonal. Hearing someone's voice and hearing their inflections is another thing entirely. Same reason Gabe and I communicate almost entirely via text. Easier than having to hear the voice of the person who betrayed you/was betrayed. I have the feeling that Gabe cringes any time I have to actually speak to him. He always seems like he's going to jump out of his skin if he actually sees me. I can imagine your xbf is doing the same things. He doesn't like what he's done, but he sees it as a 'fait accompli'. He can't go back but he can't really move forward totally because he's still attached to you.
I know, I'm rambling. Sorry. Just the way I'm seeing it. As to what to do about it....I have NFC!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Hey Mish.. that cant be it though, he's totally useless when it comes to buying presents for friends - rarely managed it, hardly ever on time and as for getting it in the post.. well, even his bestest BMF in Wales would send him stuff without fail and my ex would berate himself for rarely remembering/managing to return the favour. Trust me, that was a BIG stretch on his part to post me such a thoughtful gift on time.
But I agree that email/texting has been esaier for him than phoning and he certainly hasnt been able to face seeing me at all since Christmas. So wierd isnt it, that he would stand outside a pub with his BMFs W and tell her that he doesnt feel for Helen what he felt for me.. but then STAY WITH HER !????? Nutter.
G and Cher are still having problems and I'm pretty sure he has met someone else and is trying to decide between the two of them, but she cant see it, or wont and I dont want to be the one to tell her. Its very sad, I really really liked G too, so I feel pretty let down by his behaviour, which is clearly childish. Or, controlling.. It does put me in an awkward position being in the middle of it, but I am beyond caring how it affects me and my ex though, as I dont get to see G lately anyway (he is too busy juggling women I suspect!)
Hey Julia.. oh just logged in. You know, it wasnt wierd.. its like he's a part of me and always will be, it doesnt matter how many years go by or who he's with/isnt with..its like he'll always be 'mine' ! And we were always close and still loved each other after we split, but eventually lost contact (although I always knew where to find him). I would see him every few years in the street and he would kiss my cheek and ask how I was.. but this was definetly different.. this was, I've been thinking about you.. as in.. remembering how much we l*ved each other (and we were madly in love). For years after we split everyone described it as a tragedy. Seriously, its much like the sitch now! Its like.. um soulmates.. why are you not together!?? I know I will always love these two men, no matter what happens and wish them happiness.
Yes, I last saw my current ex (this is getting confusing!!) when he dropped me at my parents, well remembered. He said he would call tonight, but I dont want to see him tonight.
Seeing my last ex does make me miss my current ex more. But.. I cant really be sure, until I see him.
I'm just wondering what you want from meeting again. Just to see him/ to talk about the house/ to 'test the waters' with regard to a relationship. What are your goals for the meeting. THere has been much discussed over the past few months. I'm just wondering where you are at now?
I understand about seeing your past ex. I think that what you said about always loving them and wishing them happiness is a really healthy place to be
Why did your ex tell his friends he doesn't feel for Helen what he feels for you and then not act on it? I'm sticking with my previous answer, that as long as he can feel he's the victim of circumstances, trapped in the wrong relationship by the forces that be, he doesn't have to examine his own responsibility for how he got there. So, no, he's not a nutter--just a depressive. (Are you sure you want to take a depressed guy back? Who's to say how many times he'll cycle through these patterns if he doesn't seek help?)
As for the thoughtful present--those MLCers do have their "pockets of sanity," you know, where they see things more clearly for a brief period. Likely during one of those he remembered that you wanted those items, acknowledged he was a selfish friend who ought to put more care into picking and sending presents, and felt energized to change his ways. Then the fog swept over him again.... It's a lot like when the LBS thinks, "Look at the ways I've scrwwed up in my relationships, from now on I'm never going to x, y and z." But you have to make a great number of changes to transform yourself, and you have to continue to be aware of your shortcoming for the changes to stick.
Or maybe he thought he was losing his backup-girl, and so racked his mind for what would show he cared, or he'd done something nice for Helen and then felt guilty about you--but does his "reason" really matter? Does he even remember or understand why he did it?
Once you start channelling all the energy that you lavish on questions about Ex (and it's great that you're becoming less and less "depressed" when you do get caught up in his stuff) into your own life, your creativity and talent and power are really going to shine!
