What cheeseless tunnels do you keep going down? Mine was up until recently wanting him to stop watching so many sporting events on television...he's a sports' junkie and was when I married him...I need to learn to deal with it and find ways to keep myself happy.
What things do you keep doing that aren't producing positive results for you, but you keep doing them anyway, just because you KNOW that you're right?
I used to argue and talk and talk and talk at him....it didn't help... Now, I don't argue...I ask for help finding a solution to our problem or disagreement...or I agree to disagree with him.
What things might you be doing to try to fix the problem, that may just be making things worse? I tried to get him to go to counseling, church, have family nights....it just alienated him more. So, I started going to church, counseling, and making the most of our time together instead...it's working like a charm, I might add!
What are some of the things that you are doing that may seem perfectly "logical" to do, but aren't producing "effective" results? LOL...I was not very logical ever...was very emotional and very emotion driven. Since I have learned that I have no control over him...only over myself...I'm getting better results.
What are some of your "more of the same" behaviors? Again, this would have been begging him to stop watching sports, do things with us, go to church with us, go to counseling, etc....
My do something different approach is to do things I want to do with or without him....and look great as I go off to do them....with or without him...peaks his interest and he's starting to want to go with me to different things..and has even woken me up on one Saturday and suggested we go to garage sales...my type of thing, not his!
