-Snooping -Over-analyzing -Talking about R -Asking H to move back home
What things do you keep doing that aren't producing positive results for you, but you keep doing them anyway, just because you KNOW that you're right?
Same as the above, really. But to get more specific, I continue to bring up the OW. I want so badly for him to just talk about it so I know what happened, know what went wrong and know what is going on now. But he never talks, so I continue to push. Then I over-analyze his not talking and his cell phone addiction and lack of interest in coming home and conclude he’s talking to her again. And the cycle continues…
What things might you be doing to try to fix the problem, that may just be making things worse?
Easily the R talks that I continue to try and have with H. They clearly aren’t working but I continue to try different approaches with the R talks to get him to listen. He isn’t listening no matter what I say.
What are some of the things that you are doing that may seem perfectly "logical" to do, but aren't producing "effective" results?
R talks, being honest about my feelings, trying to persuade H to come home, trying to figure out what is wrong so that I can help make it right.
What are some of your "more of the same" behaviors?
-Crying -Jealousy -Pleading -Guilt-tripping
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
