I think she is ready for whatever happens. She has the papers. He said he broke it off, and she will see if it is true. Like she said, she needs more proof, so I imagine she is waiting on him to provide it before doing anything else yet.
I knew he would wait until the last minute and he wouldn't be able to follow thru on anything until you gave him the ultimatum. You will have to follow through if you need to.
This will be his/yours hardest time. Hang in there. Get the counselor right away if he has chosen to repair his marriage, get the transparency plan in place...don't wait. Require ALL that you need RIGHT NOW. Again, don't wait. If he is not able to, follow through with your plan.
If he slips up, all you have to say is "I'll be filing them tomorrow. I'm sorry things ended like this."
He does have a habit of waiting til the last minute. Which you of course know. So I know we are both scared he'll relax now that his "deadline" is passed. Time will tell though, and it doesn't really hurt to give him a little time.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I'm sorry, Corey, but I have to agree with Puppy on this one. Like my H who has been back the last few months, I don't have much faith in your H either. He's going to slip up.
Whatever you decide, MC IS A MUST. I "demanded" it but didn't enforce it AFTER my H moved back home.....As each day passes, I am getting closer and closer to walking out. Seriously.
You've reached this point before. Maybe this time will be different. Maybe it won't. But yes, time will tell.
Good luck and take care.
(((((S&S)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
(((Puppy, Vickyd, WDID, Michelle LT & GF))) Well the question as to whether or not she knows has been answered. Oh, she knows.
The $hit is hitting the fan. I got a text at 7:15pm (tell me your not shocked!)
"Congrats i here(sp)you and H are getting back together. Better luck this time around."
I did not respond...although I SO wanted to. She is now threatening to change her phone number and is just creating drama and stress for H. She told him that if she knew that it was going to end up this way, she wouldn't have ever had that baby and I guess other equally mean things.
Ok this is mean, but I'm going to say it anyway...I feel like telling them both, "So this hurts huh?" "WELCOME TO MY F'ING WORLD!!!" They are getting to experience a little bit of the pain that they have caused me and my kids for the last year and 1/2. As a human being I don't like to see anyone hurt, but as a betrayed W, I am hard pressed to find a shred of sympathy for either one of them. I look at my kids and all sympathy for them drains away.
Ok so enough of that. He seems pretty determined and I can honestly say that I am speechless. I really didn't think that he would actually go through with it. Like I said though, we shall see what happens. It is VERY early and time will tell. As for our R, we will just have to take is slow and see what happens.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I know you won't let this happen but I will say it anyway - don't back down. Stick to your guns and maintain your boundaries. You have needs that must be met. You are strong and will see to that!!!!!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Sugar... Please be careful. Keep your guard up, I would hate hate hate to see him hurt you again.
As for her, stay clear of her. If she starts texting you again, get a restraining order. You don't need that nonsense, whether you work it out or not. Or change your cell number is also an option.
I hope and pray that this is it for you. Be strong and set your standards with him.
((((((((corey))))))))
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Set up that counselor appt so you can lay your groundrules. You have so much to think about with the child involved. It would help to have someone else there helping you two set this all up. Keep the hope, and keep praying. If you don't have the Power of the Praying Wife. Now would be a great time to get it. ((((Sugar)))))
She told him that if she knew that it was going to end up this way, she wouldn't have ever had that baby and I guess other equally mean things.
Hmm, having an R and baby with a married man she didn't realize it might not end well???? Zero sympathy from me. And hopefully she didn't actually base having a baby on having an R with your H! She's not going to be getting mom of the year award anytime soon!!!
I totally would feel like you. Yes, now she's getting a taste of what you've gone through. But she chose her difficult path, you never did!!! I do think that text is a good sign though; she's texting you b/c she feels your H slipping away. So that's good, but I wouldn't bother to respond to her. Karen
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((((Sugar)))))