That may be an excellent idea. We have a few fairly close friends that are GP's (male). One I could confide in, in a heartbeat.
He hasn't been to a dr in years. I'm not sure I can swing it. Worth a shot, though! (WAIT, AT THIS VERY MINUTE, an insurance guy is here - another fairly close friend, giving us pricing on house, cars, boats, and LIFE INSURANCE! I wonder if it's required for life insurance!)
Anyone sell life insurance, and know if it's required?
We may be on to something.
THANK YOU!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Talk to the GP and tell him what is going on. Do it before many more days go by.
I'm glad to see you're detaching, but I think you need to talk to the GP sooner rather than later. Those are things you should never take as a joke.
Please.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
My W had been a lot better after she moved out and stopped talking about it. However, I should probably have gotten her to a counselor regardless of the fragility of the sitch at that point.
Glad I made you smile! Do try to do some of the things I mentioned in my post tho. They worked for me and they will for you!
H called several times yesterday, checking in, and checking out family scheduling (overkill for what was going on). He was coming in from out of town.
I heard him with the insurance agent, walking through our home, very PROUDLY giving him the tour (... short explanation, we have a 100 year old home, on the river, in a GREAT neighborhood. When we bought it, it was in foreclosure, and it was SO bad, it took us 2 1/2 years of H general contracting the entire restoration, with some renovation, to even spend the night here, and another year to do the yard, etc... It's amazing now.). It was nice to hear him proud of what he/we had accomplished.
We had a great dinner (I made one he loves, of course), and all of the kids were home (with no activities!!). He goofed off with them for awhile before and after dinner, and then came in and talked to me about some daily stuff. He's having a hard time holding eye contact with me, almost uncomfortable, but not trying to get away at all. He asked me if I wanted to watch American Idol with him. I told him I needed to finish some work, as I'll be out of town all next week, but would love to, if he can wait a bit. So, we did, and all was fine.
I'm trying to keep to myself more when he's here. I'm back to only initiating phone calls/texts if there's a legitimate reason (when he's out of town), and I'm back to creating positive moments of interaction.
H called again this am, as I accidentally resent a text that was in my history to him while trying to delete it. I thought he was going to be a little annoyed, as he was probably sleeping, after driving all night when he left here. He wasn't at all. Wondered what I was doing, asking about D17 this am (always drama there!), and seeing what was going on for the day. I told him about some sales I was closing, and going to lunch with three of my closest friends.
I put an end to the convo, and told him I had to run, as my other line was ringing.
One by one... positive moments.
One by one... thoughts/feelings/emotions NOT being tied to how he is doing, but to how I'm doing...
That's all I can do now.
LET THINGS BE, and be positive in his presence. (oh, and maybe just a little cute!)
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Hey MB, good job! I'm very proud of you, but I'm still concerned that you need to talk to the GP.
You're an inspiration to me.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I heard him with the insurance agent, walking through our home, very PROUDLY giving him the tour (... short explanation, we have a 100 year old home, on the river, in a GREAT neighborhood. When we bought it, it was in foreclosure, and it was SO bad, it took us 2 1/2 years of H general contracting the entire restoration, with some renovation, to even spend the night here, and another year to do the yard, etc... It's amazing now.). It was nice to hear him proud of what he/we had accomplished.
....
I put an end to the convo, and told him I had to run, as my other line was ringing.
One by one... positive moments.
One by one... thoughts/feelings/emotions NOT being tied to how he is doing, but to how I'm doing...
That's all I can do now.
LET THINGS BE, and be positive in his presence. (oh, and maybe just a little cute!)
My W also brags about our house to others, even though she doesn't want to live there (with me)... To others she calls it "our" house, to me she says "your" house. Used to annoy me, now I just think if you want me to have it, I'll take it.
Good to hear about your progress. Thinking more and more about YOU, while you're letting him see what a great person you are, that's great! Keep going!
So, H just called while I was at soccer training with our two boys. Says... "Geez, don't you ever stop? I thought you'd be home by now." My response, "Well, H, I have a lot to accomplish during the course of a day! What's up?" He just wanted to check on the health of my uncle, and my best friend.
My best friend and I were meeting for lunch today to go over what we need to bring on Spring Break next week. I get a txt from her 20 minutes after she's supposed to meet me saying she can't come. Her H had to come pick her up at the gym because she had passed out and had a seizure during her workout. This is two days after she hit her head on a light switch box at a sports complex. NOT GOOD. They are at the hospital now, getting an MRI done. Everyone pray for Jen! She's a cutie, and has SIX KIDS! Yikes! H's a dentist and was falling apart telling me what happened.
So, I gave H an update on Jen, and told him I couldn't really hear him in a soccer complex, but to drive safe.
That's all folks.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
You could give your husband a simple quiz, this is similar to what a GP will give him. Medication could really do wonders for him, This may be a chemical thing, and if it is I hurt for him suffering through all of that. Please do not forget about this, it could end up really bad with your R or God forbid, worse.
