I know I'm stubborn Puppy. But it's the only way I'm going to get through this. I cannot start out feeling like I'm giving more than my fair share, even if that's what it will take.
I know I caused our problems. But I can't get to the point of working on them until I know that he really wants to be here. He said many times that he only stayed with me for the past 5+ years because it was easy and convenient for him. It's not going to be easy and convenient anymore. I don't want to go out of my way to make it difficult, I just know that it's going to take a lot of hard work and effort on both of our parts. I am not going to take the pressure off him so early in the process. He needs to work at it starting right now.
And if he were some random guy I just met and was interested in dating, I wouldn't drop my plans for him the same day either. I would expect him to ask me out in advance and make plans.
