naej - I've got some suggestions for sure now, but I do think you are right to have me go to the department store and have the "ladies" help me out. I'm sure they can steer me in the right direction.
I'm just rusty w/dating and as the fellas said below, it is all about confidence and not being "clingy." That will scare her off.
She's pretty deliberate, so I need to be patient and just wait things out. They'll have to develop as they do, but it doesn't mean I'm not anxious to hear from her. The problem is I just can't "pursue" her too much or she'll run for cover before I've even got a chance.
So, I called yesterday and left a message, so I'll just wait now to hear back from her and try not to force the issue. The waiting is the hardest part, but I've got to get used to it if I'm going to be back in the saddle again.
Phoenixdeux - GREAT to see you again! I'm trying not to scare this one off and like I told Gypsy, the waiting is the part that just kills you. Once I'm in a relationship again, I won't have to "wait" but until I get to that stage, I'll have to "play by the rules of dating" and take it slow and let it develop.
Kerry - The Dawg fan comment is a difficult one indeed. It will either positively show my committment to hang in when things get tough or show her I have incredibly bad taste.
John - I'll let the board know when it is finished, up and running. Not sure if it is web only or all in French, but I do know it was for VW of Canada and the new Passat is GORGEOUS! What a ride!
As for the nerves, you'll get those again soon, my friend. I'm not digging the unknown part of starting to date and I'm having to learn to be patient all over again. That is the hard part of being "available again" after 12 years of marriage/relationship.
I'm so sorry I was away from you sitch for so long. It does feel lonely when you don't get anyone posting to you. I know the feeling.
I too agree the advice about being a single parent is excellent and has been put into full effect. The surprising part is she's now being much, much nicer to me since I put up my boundaries and answered her last spewing of venom. It won't last, but at least I was able to say my peace and move forward for me.
As for the side gig, it is acting and not modelling. My agency doesn't think I'm "modelling material." Now I'm not sure if that is a fat joke or a reference to the fact I've got a face built for radio. Either way, I enjoy doing it on the side and picking up little stuff here and there.
Rob, you know . after all you have been through, perhaps you should not "play the game" but instead be who you are, and allow yourself to be anxious and text too much or whatever. Hey if she can't accept who you are and how you feel, better you know right away
Rob, Ah, I have said many times that anyone who is a good teacher is also an actor. They have to be! I am a part time math tutor and have worked in many classrooms with many teachers, and the good ones are basically actors!
I left a message for the woman who has my socks yesterday, but haven't heard from her yet. We spoke on Sunday and she said I could call her on Monday, but it was hectic and I was unsure of being too eager, so I waited until yesterday. I think from here I'll wait to hear from her and contact her next week if we don't talk this weekend (or get the hint and move on).
On the XW front, since she and D share the same birthday and Disney is giving free admission on your birthday this year, XW and her mother are taking D to Disneyland (w/out new BF). I heard it from D Monday night and got an e-mail from XW yesterday which talked about the trip.
I replied supporting the trip and telling her I was glad they were going but was a bit jealous that I wouldn't be there to share in D's joy and excitement. I also asked XW if D would be missing any school for the trip since their birthday was on a Sunday this year. The e-mail also talked about a casual party for D's birthday and asked my opinions on dates, etc.
XW just sent an e-mail telling me she was thinking of having D miss school on Monday and she agreed w/the birthday party date I suggested. She also asked to switch a day w/me in April.
I replied on the party, told XW I'd think about the switch, and wrote the following concerning the Disney trip:
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I'm so happy you can take her to Disneyland especially since your birthdays are free admission all year long. I don't mind her missing Monday, but this does seem like it was pre-planned for her to miss w/out letting me know first, so I would ask in the future to consult w/me prior to making plans if it involves her missing school or anything else that is part of our legal custody.
Again, I just wanted her to understand this MUST be done w/my approval rather than done and then notifying me of her plans.
Not sure what response I'll get, but I'll definitely keep reminding her of her legal responsibilities concerning D and I want her to also remember that she alone can't call the shots for our daughter.
Otherwise, things are pretty normal here. Not much else to report except I'm really looking forward to getting the school year over and done with. I'm ready for summer after this year!
Anyway, I'm in agreement w/your thoughts against "playing the game" as far as beign myself and going from there. The problem comes in the interim where you have to walk the fine line between being interested too much too soon and being a bit aloof. I wish it was different, but if I do too much contacting too soon I'll be seen as insecure, clingy, and needy. That is the part where I have to "play by the rules."
In person and on the phone, I'm totally fine w/being me. It is getting there that is the issue.
As for acting, I too think that to be a good teacher you have to have a bit of an actor inside of you. I'm naturally "on stage" daily so performing for training films and commercials is pretty easy for me to do.
