Living in the basement..............huh...............nope don't like it at all. Could not imagine my W and her new H living in the basement while I live uptairs with women coming in and out all the time.
Not how I see being D that is for sure.
Everything sounds really good Ken despite the D proceedings. As long as you keep the focus on you and not her everything will work out for you. It may not be what you exactly want or invisioned for yourself but you will be happy in the end.