Stress, WAW and life in general II

[2gthrButApart]

LOL...

She's broken because she took on too much.

That's what caused my H to break down, he had too much responsibility and being the manly man that he is, he had too much pride to tell me it was really breaking him down.

I began working FT in April, which helped out tremendously w/ the load. I was always working PT before then. In Oct, the time of the bomb, the full effect of me helping him, by working FT hadn't really kicked in just yet, and we were having major problems.

Now, after a yr, it is finally "showing" and now is when things are getting a lil' better. He's starting to see he's not responsible for every lil' thing anymore, like he has been all of these yrs.

Yesterday I called him, on my lunch hr and asked him how he's doing, funds wise, over there in foreign country world, he said his funds were pretty low. I told him, you know what, I just put my check in, and the Obama stimulus thing kicked in so there's even a lil' extra in there, I told him to take money out and go have some fun, go have a nice dinner or whatever he wanted, on me, no worries. He sounded relieved. He said Ok, cool.

Well....Last night when I spoke to him (he called me) he was going out w/ his dad and brother to eat and have some drinks, and listen to some music... w/o stress, money wasn't an issue.

Every lil' nice gesture counts. But it has to be done selflessly, w/ no expectations at all.

I can write your next paragraph when he comes home, for now I can update you on what is going on long distance wise.

Oh one thing...back in Dec, right after the bomb, when he'd be going somewhere and I'd ask, he'd tell me not to worry, that we're not together so I shouldn't ask (then when he'd get home he'd spill the beans) ...Well last night he gave me a complete rundown of what his evening was going to entail, w/o me asking a single question. That's a huge turn around from Dec w/ his lil' nasty attitude.