"FG - I'm sorry if I am failing at this. I am flying by the seat of my pants....juggling emotions, logic, money issues, anger, sorrow....it's a lot of crap to sort out. Please don't give up on me. I haven't given up on myself."
You should know by now that I am going to talk "at" you. To a point I expect that things will not go as they are "written" out here. I know it is hard. I wish you were not flying by the seat of your pants right now.. but that is where you find yourself. I am not giving up on you. The best thing that could happen for me is to "see" you standing on "solid ground". I believe you really have a chance to do that here with this situation. I seem to remember when you went to court the first time for the CS.. and the judge put some things in place for you.. you seemed more stable. Then H was not making payments and missing time with K and things started sliding some.
"My credit is shot, I have no assets, no savings and no family that can afford to help me. But, I'm still trying to figure something out."
I understand times are hard. I am not a L but some states do allow for reimbursement of "court costs" related to D proceedings. The general thought there is even the D cost should be shared 50/50. Look around on the internet/phonebook/Churches for groups that support "single" mothers. Money can be found even if you have to repay it.. that would be better than not having "help".
"He has no intention of having her 50/50 he even said so to me."
You always ask for more than you want. If he has a L (assume he does) they would tell him ask for more. Even if there is a 1% chance that he could get it.. I would want some "help" covering that 1% chance. Remember.. Prepare for what's coming. Basic DB rule.
"He just doesn't want to pay me any money."
See my thoughts on the 1% chance they apply to this too.
Again.. I "see" this as a chance to "draw a line in the sand". I think it could benefit both you and your H. The last thing I want to see is you two in a "tit for tat" battle. I think in my mind it seems the better choice to get a L than for you to "fight" it alone. If he has a L.. well then it becomes a no brainer for me.. you gotta get one. The last thing you need to another person rolling over you. You get enough of that from your H.
I think you have a solid chance of coming out OK with the court.. even without a L. But I would be remiss to not recommend you get one. It is in your best interest to have one. Even if it cost twice the figure you threw out there.
I have been posting to you for a while now.. don't think I don't "see" the changes. You are doing great.. I just want you to do better.
Fair Enough?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
