My H is in the service... An affair is a violation of the Uniform Code of Military Justice, Punishable by demotion, dishonorable discharge or jail time. It is made even worse when the OW is another military personnel, and EVEN worse when they are married themselves. Now they are both in trouble.

I told on him. Called the captain and showed him phone bills proving contact, gave him the OW's H's name, he was a coastie too. I absolutely do not regret it. He was given a stop contact order, very disgraceful, and ordered to cease and desist. I claimed innocence when he asked me if I had done it..heehee.. As far as Im concerned shining some light on it using a tool that I had at my disposal was the right thing to do, and I know its not always the case, but this time they had my back. The Chaplain here was civilian, but the chaplain at sector is an officer, he is the one who actually recommended this site to me. It felt like finally, after following this career around for years, they were doing something for me!

You also can talk to the um, FOH I think, or maybe Work/Life, I dont remember quite, but you should have no problem getting in touch with a Chaplain. Tricare will pay for up to 6 sessions for you to talk to a counselor, no charge, no questions asked, and the FOH will pay for you to have a consultation with a lawyer, if it comes to that. If your chaplain is an officer he can order your H to get a psych evaluation, suicide risk assessment, all kinds of things... petty, I know. But seriously, talking to a chaplain might help alot, even if you arent religious, he can help to support you in your struggle for your marriage.

Dont tell your housing friends, this sort of thing spreads like wildfire among the military wives... Not to talk smack, but keeping it on the sly from them, and only going through professional channels, or a truly trusted confidant will really be in your best interest.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...