After further review and reflection what has worked? - Giving her space - Agreeing to everything she wants - Answering her phone calls - Standing up to her
What hasn't: Pursuing--asking why she is doing this, if there is any possibility of us getting back together, etc. - Not being available to answer her phone calls
Having said all this, it appears to me that she has not changed one bit even though I have. This has been her act the whole time we have been married. She always gets angry when she doesn't get her way--ALWAYS!!!She's still abusive verbally. Kind of wants to have her cake and eat it too with the whole calling me and passing along her day, etc. I still don't understand the whole passing me job openings at her work and other things like offering to buy me a movie last night. A lot of things don't add up. I re-read the watch and wait chapter in DR last night as it feels like I'm basically at a standstill and waiting for the other shoe to drop.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!