Thanks for the post. Sitch does sound similar, sorry that to find you in the same boat! I have been doing the 180, but with MLC it doesn't work sometimes. H is up and then down and the roller coaster is what is killing me. There is also an OW in the mix, which totally adds to my problems.
H tells people that he just wants to be alone...but yet he is never alone. He goes away and hangs out with OW. When he is home, he does stuff with me or sits at home alone when I am out GALing. He pulls towards me then pulls away. I can't seem to make heads or tails of it.
We are in the process of selling our home and it sometimes seems like he is just hanging around for the payout. The problem is now that I can't trust him and doubt everything he says/does. I sit and just evaluate everything that he is doing to see if my DBing is working. I am really tired.
I have done a ton of research on MLC and I totally think that is what is happening. The hard part is when it is going to stop and will he ever figure out what he is missing with me.
