I haven't heard from you in a while, I hope all is well.
I have a question for you.
You had suggested the book, love without hurt to me based on my sitch. Well I looked into it and it really spoke to my situation. So in my research I found out that there is a love without hurt boot camp held on the east coast.
It is a three day intensive program based on the HEALS techniques and so on. Both the abuser and the abused can attend. I made the choice for my self that I would spend that last of the money I have left on the workshop, airline tickets from the west coast and hotel to stay.
I feel in my heart that it would be a huge jumping of point in my life for myself, my sons and everyone I touch in my life. Now my wife has blamed me for the failure of our marriage and the fact that she now wants a divorce. She says that the emotional and verbal abuse was to much for her and the relationship was always toxic. Therefore she no longer wants to be in any relaionship with me ever again.
Well I want her to begin to heal as well as begin to move forward in my life in as a better man. I still want more than anything to re-invent our marriage and stay with her the rest of my life. So last week I decided to take a risk and invite her to join me at the workshop, actually called boot camp. I emailed her some info, including the video interview with the author that you sent me.
She said she would consider it, but let me know that under no circumstances did she want to be going in hopes to restore our marriage. I told her I understand and that I truly understand the pain she felt and is still feeling and I only want her to begin to heal and be a happy and whole person. I siad I want his for her and for our sons because if she is not happy and healthy then her unhappyness will affect our sons.
I must admit that I do still hope that it may bring about some change in her stance about ending our marriage and relationship forever. But, if we could really be truly compassionate twoard each other I think we can truly coparent our sons.
So what are your thoughts on all of this?
And what affect do you think it might have?
How has it affected your relationship with you wife having read the book and giving the book to your wife?
