An affair has legal, financial, emotional -- even medical (just check out today's development from MarriedCrazy) -- implications on a family.
So given those implications, the OP *should* be confronted as long as OP is M.
But those same implications are insufficient grounds for confronting OP -- perhaps to undermine the excitement associated with the secrecy -- if OP is single?
SO the legal, financial, emotional, and medical implications only matter in the case of OP's spouse?
Smiley, I believe Puppy was advocating telling the OMs W, not confronting the OM. In the case where the A partners are both married, the spouses of both should be aware of the A. That way everyone is on a level playing field and each person can make decisions based upon the facts. If the OP is single then this really doesn't apply and is therefore a confrontation.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
