Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[kjensen]

Ok-question for anyone..
Given my situation, would you insist H vacate office?(there is no room in his current apartment for his work files/computer and he can't meet clients in his apartment) I feel like if I push on doing these things I'm hitting him when he's down. It doesn't feel right to me. I don't think I'm letting the status quo be in order to have connection to him. When he first left, our plan was that when he came to work at our home in the morning he would have time with the girls before school and he would be there when they came home-this would keep a semblance of normality in their lives. So that's why we've kept his situation as is. He has updated his resume but hasn't really sent it out-not a lot of financial analyst type jobs out there at the moment and I'm sure his uncertaintly/depression is keeping him from actively searching.
BTW, his OW is financially sound and supports herself and some family members according to H. Her house looks as nice as ours from the outside
H has stated that he wants to be able to support himself and "grow up/grow some balls". This has been an issue with him for some time, that he's riding on my coattails. I've never felt that way about our careers or money-to me its all joint.
He started his own business a few years ago, put it on hold to help me move my father here and take care of my dad's stuff after he passed away. It takes time to build a client base-each year he does better, but of course, he's only a few years into building his business..He wouldn't want the OW or me supporting him financially. I don't feel like pushing the separation further(while he's just started AD(has just been 3 wks-not alot of response yet)and restarted therapy)is beneficial to him and its not affecting me at the moment-I'm watching the accounts daily. Isn't compassion a good thing?