I read that note and remember the life I had with him. I was always wrong. It's my fault.
I have enlightening moments like this. Today, I heard xH talking on the phone to someone and this someone was asking for a recommendation for car repair. xH brought up AGAIN a story of how he was 'wronged' by a certain company. Oh how many times I have heard how this company (and so many others) have screwed him. xH is a huge grudgeholder, and I am soooo happy that I no longer am the person that attempts to smooth him over.
Like always, your xH will continued to be 'annoyed' by anything you do, whichever way you do it. If you had found a tax atty quickly, he wouldn't have approved of your choice and told you that you didn't research it enough.
Do things in your own time, as long as its following the decree guidelines. Ignore his emails and his bullying.
A bully is successful only when someone tries to "appease him/her". Bullies are only neutralized when they are punched in the "snot locker". Emotionally punch him in the "Snot Locker"
Set your own agenda. Set your own timetable. Ignore the irritating voice of your XH in your ear. He IS a bully. An abusive, small, petty man. Screw his timetable or his wants or his needs. When was the last time he gave YOU that courtesy? Oh yeah...never.
A social worker at my school has a great phrase for people like your XH and my STBXW. She calls them "Injustice Collectors".
They pick up injustices or times that they have been "wronged" and put them into a container, like pebbles from a beach. They never get rid of any of the pebbles and the container gets heavier by the day.
They pick up injustices or times that they have been "wronged" and put them into a container, like pebbles from a beach. They never get rid of any of the pebbles and the container gets heavier by the day.
OK, time to ask some advice from you. How was it determined how much alimony you would get from the "Warrior"? Does the judge decide that if you litigate? The mediator we used suggested I give her 3K a month, including alimony, child support an my daughters college tuition. She wants $4700 a month? WTF.
You didn't ask, but I get 300/week child support (just a little over mandate to round numbers), and 200 alimony, which ends after 8 years (half the length of the marriage is customary if married less than 20 years). I really don't know how they came up with that figure - but both attys agreed it was the best I was going to get. I am pretty sure it is based on your income combined, to see who would have what percentage of both incomes at the end. I think I ended up with 51%...
I did an alimony buyout and included it as part of the division of assets which I was able to refinance the house to pay off. So on the record, she has no alimony and cannot get it changed in the future to a higher value if she were to become disabled.
